Yayin da aka fara yin jima'i, yawancin jita-jita da rashin fahimta suna da tsammanin cewa yana da wasu irin abubuwan da suka ji daɗi, amma mutane da yawa suna tsoron cewa a lokacin jima'i jima'i duk abin da zai yi daidai. Tsoro yana da barazanar - matsala ta farko da ta shafi jima'i ko wani yarinya zai iya haifar da lalacewa a cikin rayuwar ta. Bari mu kwatanta yadda zaka guji irin wannan matsala.
Na farko jima'i na yarinya
Sau da yawa, 'yan mata sukan rasa budurwa ba saboda ainihin sha'awar ba, amma kawai a ƙarƙashin rinjayar wasu matsayi ko kuma ƙarƙashin matsin abokin su. Kada kuyi haka domin yarinya ya kamata ya kasance a shirye don wannan mataki, duka biyu da tausayi da kuma na jiki. Game da ma'anar ƙarshe, lokacin da aka tsara don jima'i ta farko shine shekaru 17-18. Kuma ba game da munafurci ko matsananciyar matsayi ba, ana kiran wannan shekara saboda shine lokacin da yarinyar ta gama. Tuntuɓar da aka fara da shi yana fama da kamuwa da cuta da kuma matsaloli daban-daban.
Bukatar motsin jiki shine a samu gamsuwar halin kirki game da jima'i a gaba ɗaya, tun da farko da kwarewa ta farko, za'a iya haifar da sakamakon mummunar sakamako-tsoro na m rai, vaginismus , fure. Har ila yau, halin jin dadi na yarinyar zai taimaka wajen guje wa ciwo (ko rage su) yayin ragowar hymen. Saboda haka, yana da mahimmanci cewa abokin tarayya ya mai da hankali kuma yayi aiki ba tare da rashin adalci ba, kuma yanayin ya saba. Wasu suna amfani da "ayyuka" na barasa don shakatawa, yana yiwuwa a yi haka, amma idan ya kasance kadan, babu gilashin giya, in ba haka ba sakamakon zai bambanta da abin da ake bukata. Har ila yau, rage yawan ciwo za a iya gudanarwa ta hanyar zabi na gaskiya, don fararen jima'i, matsayi a baya, tare da matashin kai ko murfin da aka sanya a karkashin sautin, ya dace.
Wani muhimmin mahimmanci shi ne batun batun ciki maras so. A wani dalili, daga cikin 'yan mata mata akwai labari cewa "ba za a yi wani abu ba karo na farko," wanda ba shi da tushe. Saboda haka, ba lallai ba ne mu manta game da maganin hana haihuwa, sai dai cewa zai kare kariya daga cututtuka na al'ada.
Na farko jima'i na wani mutum
An yarda da ita cewa jima'i na farko shine muhimmin mataki a rayuwar wani yarinya, amma wannan biki yana da ban sha'awa sosai ga mutumin, kowa ya manta. Kusan kowace jariri a cikin tunani mai hankali yana riƙe da ra'ayin cewa ya kamata ba kawai ya kasance "a saman" ba, don haka ya fi kyau fiye da sauran mazajen da yarinyar take. Babban damuwa game da wannan matsala, wasu mutane suna fama da tashin hankali kuma basu iya cimma manufar su ta kowane hanya. Idan an sake maimaita wannan, rashin ciwo na tsammanin rashin cin zarafin jima'i zai iya samuwa, wanda kawai likitan psychotherapist zai iya magance. Saboda haka, kana bukatar mayar da hankali kan yiwuwar rashin cin nasara, kuma yarinyar dole ne ya nuna dabara, saboda rashin kulawa da hankali zai iya kara haɓaka
Sau da yawa saboda overexcitation, haɗuwa yakan faru a baya fiye da mutumin da zai sami lokaci don saka azzakari. A wannan, kuma, babu wani abu mai ban mamaki, ainihin lambobi na iya faruwa da nisa daga farko. Idan babu wani abu da ke aiki, to, ya kamata ka kwantar da hankalinka, canza zuwa wani abu dabam, sa'an nan kuma yarinyar take taimakawa wajen ginawa.
Wannan mutumin da yarinyar bata buƙatar tabbatar da cewa lokaci na farko zai zama ainihin farin ciki, mutane da yawa sukan fara jin dadi na karo na biyu ko na uku. Babu wani abu marar ciki a wannan, kawai kwakwalwa bai san yadda za a yi magana da abin da ke faruwa ba.