Kusan a kowane biyu akwai yanayi masu ban mamaki lokacin da kishi yake da rikice-rikice da rikice-rikice. Bari mu yi ƙoƙari mu sami amsar tambaya mai wuya: kishi ne mai kyau ko mara kyau?
Yawancin mutane sun yi imanin cewa kishi a cikin kananan allurai zai amfana da dangantaka. Rawar motsa jiki, karuwa da jin dadi, da ganin cewa hanyoyi masu ƙauna suna da juna. Bayan haka, al'ada, kwanciyar hankali da auna rai yana buƙatar, wani lokaci, ƙaramiyar rikici, don haka ana jin motsin zuciyar har ya zama haske. Amma irin wannan yanayi zai amfane su kawai idan sun kasance da wuya kuma amfanin kishi suna bayyane. A mafi yawan lokuta, kishin kishi yana lalata dangantaka.
Ta yaya kishi ya lalata dangantaka?
Kishi shine zato dan abokin tarayya a kasuwa da shakka a cikin jin dadin ku. Wannan halayyar ya kamata a yi la'akari da abin mamaki, saboda saboda kishi, ma'aurata suna rayewa, masu farin ciki iyalan suna rushewa, jin dadi. Idan kayi la'akari da kishi daga gefen halayen, to wannan jin dadi ne akan sha'awar bunkasa dangantaka da mutumin da kake ƙauna kuma haifar da abin dogara. A hanyar, wata hujja ce ta kimiyya ta tabbatar cewa a wasu mutane kishi sukan kara ciwon kai da cututtuka.
Kishi shine haɗuwa da fushi, ƙiyayya, rashin shakka, fushi da tausayi. A lokacin kishi, mutum yana nuna ƙiyayya ga ƙaunarsa, abokin hamayya, da kuma kansa. Ya kamata ku fahimci cewa a wannan hanya, kuna jin kishinku, kuna taimakawa wajen samar da matakai mai ƙauna.
Shari'ar janyewar sararin samaniya ta zama mai sauƙi: dukkanin tunaninmu suna cikin gaskiyar. Sabili da haka, ƙananan ka yi tunani game da mummunan - ƙananan ya faru. Kula, baya ga wannan, game da tsarki na tunaninka - a kowane hali, kada ka dubi wasu, wakilan "kasashen waje" na jima'i.
Kishi shine rashin tsaro da rashin tabbas a matakin ƙwararru. Idan ka yi tunanin cewa zaɓaɓɓu zai iya musayar ku ga wani mutum, kuna iya buƙatar yin horon horo na musamman don inganta girman kai da samun amincewar kai. Mutumin da yake shan wahala daga ƙananan ƙwayoyin jiki yana ƙarfafa abokinsa da gaske don fara neman halaye marasa kyau a wasu mutane a gefe.
Da farko, kana buƙatar fahimtar kanka da kuma kawar da wadannan manyan hadaddun da suke guba rayuwarka mai kyau. Har sai da kanka ka fara girmama kanka, kauna da kauna, ba wanda zai fara nuna maka wadannan ji. Yarda da gaskiyar cewa kai mai ban mamaki ne kuma mai ban mamaki, mai basira da hikima. Rayuwa tana tallafawa gare ku kuma yana nuna ƙaunar juna, kuma ya kamata ku haɓaka zumunci tare da ku, tare da abokin ku. Yi imani da cewa ku zauna tare da mutumin da kuke ƙauna da zaman lafiya da kwanciyar hankali, ku amince da shi kuma ku kasance da tabbaci a cikin tsarkakan tunaninsa babban farin ciki ne. Koyi don karɓar kanka na ainihi, mai gaskiya kuma kokarin inganta.
Dole ne ku tuna da gaske cewa kishi shine jin tsoron rasa wanda kuke ƙauna. Kuna gane cewa mutum ba kayan ku ba ne? Idan kuna jin kishi, to kawai kuna bukatar canza dabi'un da wasu, musamman - ga mutanenku na kusa. Dole ne ku fahimci cewa ƙaunar juna da ƙauna kyauta ne daga sama, saboda haka ku kula da hankali don rufe mutane da kuma kula da dangantakar ku. Yi aiki a kan kanka, gwada ƙoƙarin sarrafa motsin zuciyarka kuma kada ka nuna zalunci, fushi da ƙiyayya ga maƙwabtanka da masu haɓaka. Tabbatar da amincewa da ƙaunataccenka, saboda wannan shine mafi kyawun abin da kake ji. Karɓa mai sauƙi mai gaskiya: ba za ku rasa duk abin da ba dukiya ba ne.