Difference a shekaru 20

Kowane mutum ya san kalmar nan "Ƙaunar dukan 'yan shekarun suna biyayya." Mutane da yawa sun gaskata cewa zaka iya saduwa da wani mutum daga cikin ranka, zuciyarka, a cikin shekaru 20 zuwa 50. Daga allon hotuna masu launin blue, tare da idanu mai farin ciki, ma'aurata suna duban mu, wanda yawancin shekaru ya wuce iyakar shekaru 10. Amma kowane yarinya a rayuwa ta ainihi, ya ƙaddara ya danganta rayuwarta tare da wanda yake sau biyu, sau uku a shekarunta, yana da haɗarin gaske. Bari mu gwada abin da za mu ɓoye irin wannan hadari da kuma abin da ya kamata ya zama mafi kyau a cikin shekarun auren .

Difference a shekaru 20

Yayinda yarinya take da shekaru 20 kuma yana da shekaru 40, ana ganin duk abin da yake lafiya: yana kama da kai, cike da ƙauna, sha'awa da ƙarfin hali. Amma lokacin yana ɗauke da lalacewa da abin da zai faru lokacin da kake da 40 a kan cake? Kuma me ya sa, duk da irin matsalolin da suke fuskanta, 'yan matan da suka damu suna hawa cikin tafkin tare da kawunansu, suna rufe idanun su ga gaskiyar cewa akwai babban bambancin shekaru a cikin auren su?

1. Sakamakon abubuwa masu mahimmanci a wasu lokutan wasu alamu ne a cikin irin wannan aure. Don haka, mutumin da ya tsufa yana da wadatacce mai arziki, ba zai iya ba da kansa ba, amma matarsa. Sau da yawa, irin wannan zumunci yana kama da kwangilar kasuwanci.
2. Idan yarinyar ba ta da ƙauna na uwaye a lokacin yaro, ba a cire shi ba a cikin wani saurayi na wannan zamanin da ta ga mutumin da ta mafarki.
3. Akwai nau'i na maza waɗanda, a cikin rayuwar iyali, sun yarda da nauyin jagoranci, kuma mata, ɗayan su masu aiki ne. Yanzu, idan waɗannan mutane biyu suna haɗin kansu tare da nauyin halayen iyali, to, akwai yiwuwar cewa auren aure zai yi nasara, duk da cewa a cikin waɗannan dangantaka dangantakar da ke tsakanin shekarun da ke da muhimmiyar rawa.
4. Psychology ba ya ƙyale yiwuwar cewa masoya biyu suna jin daɗin gaske ga juna kuma a wannan yanayin bambanci a cikin shekarunsu sun yi wasa mai kunya.

Mafi bambancin shekaru

Yana da muhimmanci a lura cewa nazarin Cibiyar Harkokin Kiwon Lafiyar Jama'ar Amirka na Nazarin Harkokin Iyali, a wanda ya shafi mata da maza dubu biyu, ya nuna cewa, rashin alheri, kawai kashi 1 cikin 100 na masu sauraron sun gaskata da kasancewar dangantaka mai kyau tare da maza waɗanda suka fi matansu fiye da matansu. Kashi 40% sun lura cewa suna da bambancin shekaru daban-daban na tsawon shekaru 4, kuma 30% na riƙe da ra'ayin cewa shekaru 5 ko 6. Masana sun binciki dukkanin amsoshin kuma sun yanke shawarar cewa mafi kyau shekaru daban-daban shine shekaru 4.4.

Don haka, idan ka tuna da ma'auratan ma'aurata, bambanci tsakanin shekarun shekaru 4.5 da haihuwa, alal misali na dangi Elizabeth Elizabeth (87) da kuma mijinta Philip Mountbetten (92) nan da nan ya tuna.