Halin da wakilan wakilin jinsi daban-daban suka yi daidai da irin abubuwan da suka faru sun bambanta sosai cewa bayanin da ake yi game da isowa daga taurari daban-daban ba ya da kyau sosai. Saboda haka, a ƙarƙashin dangantaka da mace mai aure da kuma namiji da ke da aure don shirye-shiryen kawar da wani bangare na tunani. Amma muna da bambance-bambance daban-daban a cikin zane ba haka ba ne, don haka me yasa irin wannan matsala?
Psychology na dangantaka tsakanin namiji da mace
Akwai matsalolin matsaloli masu yawa da kwakwalwarmu ta ƙwaƙwalwa, wannan batu ba shi bane. Dangane da yanayin da ake samu na ɗan adam (mutum yana farauta, mace tana shirya), hanyoyi na fahimtar gaskiyar sun zama daban. A sakamakon haka, jima'i mai karfi ya fara nuna kyakkyawan ƙwarewar, kuma mai rauni - ya isa matakin gwani don fahimtar motsin rai . Wannan shine dalilin da yasa ilimin fahimtar dangantakar tsakanin namiji da mace yana da rikitarwa. Alal misali, bayanin yarinyar game da marigayin zuwa gida, mutumin ya fita tare da kalmomi game da wata rana mai wuya. Za a yi fushi da damuwa da rashin tausayi. Kuma abu shine cewa yarinyar ta so ta ce ta rasa ta kuma yana son kulawa, kuma dan mutumin da ke tsaye ya fahimci abin da aka gaya masa "kun kasance a yau". Wannan bangare na ilimin halayen dangi na iya zama mai ban sha'awa ga mace mai aure da kuma mutumin da ya yi aure wanda yakan manta da raunin fahimtar su, ko da yake sun san kome da zuciya. Don haka, ba sababbin ma'aurata da suka riga sun sami damar yin aiki tare don koyi don sadarwa ba. Hakika, wannan ba yana nufin cewa yarinya dole ne ya ba da bayani kawai ba, da manta game da zancen banza, kuma mutumin bai kamata ya yi kuka ba. Amma don jituwa tsakanin iyali, wasu ƙaddara zasu kasance.
Wani matsala na dangantaka tsakanin namiji da mace, ilimin halayyar kwakwalwa yana ganin yadda za a yi iyakacin matsayin mata. Yana da sauƙin sauƙin mutum yayi aiki a kan tsari, kuma idan ya fada, rikici na ciki ya faru. Daga gare shi, da kuma lafiyar lafiyar ke fama, kuma wasu suna shan wahala. A wannan yanayin, ba tare da tattaunawa sosai ba tare da rabi ba, ba za ka iya yin ba, kuma idan ba ka gudanar da magance rikici ba a wannan matakin, to, zaka iya tambayi majalisa.
To, dukkanin matsalolin matsalolin sunyi haɓaka ga ƙin farko don aiki akan dangantaka. Sau da yawa ma'aurata, musamman matasa, suna tunanin cewa ƙaunar tana kawar da dukan matsalolin, kuma idan wani abu bai ci gaba ba, to, za a magance shi na ɗan lokaci, amma idan ba haka ba ne, to yana yiwuwa a rabu. Amma gaskiyar ita ce za ka iya magana game da ƙauna kawai idan kana so ka yi kokarin dangantaka.