Dukan mutane suna so su yi ƙauna da juna da iyali mai farin ciki. Amma kawai wasu mutane suna gudanar da su gane wannan a aikace. Domin ku sami dangantaka mai dorewa da aminci, kuna bukatar ganin bambancin tsakanin ilimin halayyar ƙauna, fahimtar zumunci da fahimtar jima'i, kuma ku iya hada dukkanin abubuwa uku a cikin hulɗar ku.
Daga ra'ayi na ilimin halayyar kwakwalwa, ƙauna na nuna dangantaka ta bude dangane da amincewa da juna da kuma farin ciki. A cikin ilimin halayyar mutumtaka, ra'ayin soyayya ya hada da abubuwa uku:
- Sharuɗɗa. Matsayin halin kirki na soyayya. Yana nufin shirye-shiryen warware matsalolin juna. Wannan al'amari ya dogara ne akan girmamawa da tunani na ƙaunatattun ƙauna, ƙwarewar ilimi da halayyar kirki, da ikonsa da mutunci. Lokacin da mutane suke son ƙauna, to an lalata layin tsakanin girmamawa da ƙauna. Zuwa kalmomin abokin tarayya suke sauraron, kuma ra'ayi na ƙaunataccen ya zama abin ƙyama. Ana daukar dukkan yanke shawara tare. Girmama shine tabbacin biyayya da amincewa ga ma'aurata.
- Kusa. Halin ƙauna na ƙauna shine zumunci, ƙaunar abokantaka, hadin kai. Ƙauna tana da alaƙa da abota, bisa ga manufa ɗaya, ra'ayi, abubuwan da zaɓaɓɓu. A cikin masoya, abokantaka na iya kai matsakaicin komai a kan haɗin kai da haɗin kai, lokacin da mutum ya zama gaba ɗaya kuma a madadin. Wannan jin dadi da farin ciki ga ƙaunatattuna, jin daɗin abin da kuke gani da jin abin da kuke yi wa sujada, ku ji warinsa da taɓawa. Zuwa zai maye gurbin kalmomi, ƙirar ɓoye daga wasu. A cikin abota na yau da kullum babu dangantaka da juna, yana yiwuwa ne kawai idan akwai jima'i ba tare da bukatun kowa ba.
- Passion. Sashin jiki na ƙauna, wanda ya danganci halayyar jima'i, tashin hankali da jan hankali. Da sha'awar irin wannan iko lokacin da ƙaunatacce shine kadai tushen jin dadi. Abinda ƙauna ya zama mafi kyau da kuma kyawawa, sauran abokan tarayya basu jawo hankali ba.
Dukkanin ilimin halayyar soyayya yana da mahimmanci don ginawa da bunkasa dangantaka. Akwai nau'i-nau'i daban-daban daga cikinsu waɗanda suke halayyar nau'o'in ƙauna daban-daban. Amma hakikanin ainihin ƙauna yana haɗa dukkanin abubuwa guda uku a kusan nau'in daidai.
Don samun ƙauna na gaskiya kuma ku iya raba shi daga fadi da ƙauna kuna buƙatar sanin ilimin halayyar dangantaka. Alamar rarraba da ƙauna da ƙauna a cikin ilimin halayyar mutum:
- domin soyayya yana da muhimmanci jima'i, don ƙauna ba fifiko ba ne;
- a cikin ƙauna mutane suna kai wa junansu, don haka kada su ji kauna, kauna, duniya ta ruhaniya
mai zaman kanta daga abokin tarayya; - Ƙaunar mai ƙaunar mai yiwuwa ne kawai a gaban abu, a cikin ƙaunar farin ciki na ci gaba;
- soyayya shi ne kyauta, soyayya shi ne mallaka;
- soyayya yana kama da ilimin halayyar yaron, ƙauna shine yawan manya;
- a cikin soyayya babu hankali, a kauna - muhimmancinta yana da muhimmanci;
- ƙauna - ƙarewa, ƙauna - cika;
- domin ƙaunar halayen waje na da muhimmanci, ƙauna shine sha'awar tafiya daya hanya.
Yi amfani da ilimin tunani na ƙauna don gina dangantaka mai karfi.