Kwararren Matar

Kwararren mahaifiyar wani abu ne mai rikitarwa a yanzu, wadda a baya ya kamata a gane shi azaman son uwa don kula da jaririnsa kuma ya kare shi. Idan ba a taba jayayya da irin yanayin da mahaifiyar mahaifiyar take ba, yanzu ra'ayoyin masana kimiyya game da wannan batu na kange. Tambayar ta tashi a cikin shahararren TV din "Bari suyi magana" a cikin batun "Ƙarƙashin Ƙararren Iyaye".

Yaushe ne ilimin mahaifiyar ya tashi?

Kwararren mahaifiyar wata hanya ce ta sa mace ta kula da 'ya'yanta. A gaskiya ma, aikin aiki ne ba tare da kwanakin kwana ba kuma ranaku 24 hours a rana. Yawancin lokaci, don bayyanar ilmin ganyayyaki, maharan da ake bukata:

1. Gabatar da samfurori masu kyau a cikin tunani. Yayinda yarinyar ta gani tun lokacin yaro, yadda iyaye ke kula da jariri, ta da kanta, za ta sake maimaita wannan a cikin rayuwarta.
2. Wani muhimmin mahimmanci shine mahaifiyar mahaifa ta mahaifiyar. Wannan yana faruwa idan an saka jariri a kan mahaifiyarsa a bayyane, bayan da aka ba da shi, amma a duk sauran lokuta wannan ya kasance a cikin tambaya.
3. Wasu shafukan rayuwa masu dangantaka da haihuwar, kuma ba kome ba ko yana da kyau ko korau. Wannan shi ne dalilin da ya sa ana kula da sashen caesarean da masu taimakawa jin zafi wanda ba a so.
4. Bayyana fahimtar labarin mahaifiyar, kuma a sakamakon haka - hada shi. Lokacin da mahaifiyar ta fara kulawa da jariri, ta fara son shi, kuma nan da nan sai ta zama kamu da shi.

A wannan yanayin, ilmantuwar mahaifiyar ta shafe tsoro, saboda sabon halin zamantakewa ya ba mace cikakkiyar - fahimtar bukatun mutum na rayuwa, girman kai, mutunta dangi da sauransu. Bugu da ƙari, duk wani rashin amincewa da matar aure yanzu an yanke shawara a cikin ni'imarsa ga uwar mahaifiyar ta fi sauƙi.

Rashin rashin hankali na mahaifiyar

An tabbatar da cewa ilimin ƙwararrun mahaifiyar ya ci gaba kuma ya ci gaba da kula da ita ba duk mata ba. Don hujja akan wannan hujja yana yiwuwa a magance kowane gidan haihuwa a cikin unguwa na ƙiyayya - jarirai waɗanda iyayensu suka bar yara.

A cikin abin sha'awa na TV show "Bari su magana", an yi la'akari da batun lokacin da wani mahaifiyar yaron da ke da mummunan cututtuka na ƙwayar cuta ya watsar da yaron da mijinta, ya saki auren har ma ya kama wasu dukiya, kodayake uban ya ci gaba da kula da jariri kuma yana ƙoƙarin sanya shi a yatsunsa.

Hakika, mahaifiyar jaririn ta haifar da hukunci mai tsanani. Tana bayyana cewa ba ku son yaron, ko barin shi, idan kai mace ne, hanya ce ta dacewa da zagi ga jama'a, a yayin da, ga mutane, irin wannan hali a yau ya sadu da rashin zanga-zanga. Wannan ya tabbatar da yawancin iyayen mata guda biyu wadanda mazajensu suka gudu, suna barin matar da jariri. Game da irin waɗannan mutane ba sa shirye-shiryen talabijin - wannan kusan kusan al'ada ne. Amma matar tana tsammani "dole ne" kaunaci yaro.

A gaskiya ma, a cikin al'ummomin mu, idan akwai sau da yawa fiye da ɗayan a cikin iyalai, kuma wannan shine "bala'i," yana da sauƙi ga sababbin kayan aiki na rayuwa. Yanzu matan suna ƙoƙarin neman 'yancin kai, fahimtar kansu. Iyaye ta tilasta mace a cikin wasu iyakoki, ta dogara ga mutum, kuma sau da yawa yana tare da matsalolin kayan aiki. Ba kowa yana shirye ya je ba.

Dangane da wannan, ƙananan yara ba tare da yara ba - suna da babbar sanannen duniya - suna da 'ya'ya, amma ba sa so. Matsalar mata a cikin cibiyar sadarwa suna ƙara ƙara tambayar "Shin, al'ada ne cewa ba ni da ilimin ganyayyaki?". Mutane da yawa suna jin tausayi, wasu suna gaya yadda suka dauki yara ta hanyar maƙwabcin wani kuma sun yi nadama, kuma yawancin akwai wadanda ke neman bayyanawa a cikin hanya mummunar cewa ilimin mahaifiyar dole ne kuma rashinsa ba kusan wata cuta ba ce.

A hakikanin gaskiya, an bayyana kome kawai: masana kimiyya sunyi kiyasin cewa kimanin kashi 7-8% na ilimin mata na mata ba a nan ba, wanda ke nufin cewa rashin jin daɗi don samun 'ya'ya an tabbatar da ilimin kimiyya kuma hakika al'ada ne ga wasu mata.