Bari mu sanya tambaya mai ban mamaki ga mutane da yawa: ya keɓe kyakkyawar inganci. Kuma abin da, a cikin mahimmanci, yana nuna wannan batu.
Da farko kallo, ƙaddara shi ne mafi yawa cewa ba shine mafi girma bayyanar 'yan Adam halayen, shi ne shirye-shirye don sadaukar da kansa bukatun domin amfanin wasu. Synonyms ga kalmar "rashin kai" ba zai iya zama "sadaukarwa" da kuma "altruism."
A wani gefen kuma, ma'anar kalmar rashin kai shine "kafirta kanka." Idan kayi tunanin rai shine kyauta mai girma, yana da kyau a jefa shi? Idan baka godiya da kanka ba, shin zai yiwu ya nuna ƙauna ga wasu mutane? Kuma ba wai kai ba ne wani irin dabi'a na masochistic, ƙoƙari na tashi sama da wasu. Za mu tattauna game da wannan a yau.
Misalai na keɓewa
Mafi kyawun bayyanar sadaukarwa ita ce ƙaunar uwar ga ɗanta. Kusan kowane mahaifiyar, ba tare da jinkirin ba, zai miƙa lafiyarta, kuma, watakila, rayuwarta idan an buƙata. Ba saboda ba ta mutunta rayuwarta ba. Amma saboda ƙaunarta tana da ƙarfin gaske cewa farin ciki na ƙaunataccen mutum ya cika mace da ƙwarewa ta musamman. Ba ta tsammanin ta sama da wani abu ba ne, domin ita kanta kanta ba ta da kyau. Har ila yau, yana kawo farin ciki.
Wani yana shirye ya ba da ransa ga ƙaunatacciyar ƙauna, kuma wannan ƙuri'a kawai ita ce nuna ikon ƙauna.
Masu kashe wuta sun haddasa rayukansu don ceton sauran mutane, amma a gare su ba'a gabatar da ra'ayin yin sadaukarwa ba - aiki ne na yau da kullum wanda mutum ke aiki, idan ya yiwu, ta hanyar dakatar da motsin rai. Tare da motsin zuciyar da aka katse, likitan likita yana ciyar da sa'o'i na shagalin aikinsa, kuma, watakila, wani lokaci a cikin zancensa ya zubar da jin dadi.
Duk da haka, duk da cewa ƙaddamar, kamar, alal misali, gaskiya da halayyar kyawawan dabi'u, an ɗaukaka mu zuwa matsayi na mutunci, wannan ingancin yana da cikakkiyar bayani na halitta. A yanayi, zamu iya lura da halin kwaikwayo na ƙudan zuma, wanda ya lalace, yana ƙyamar abokin gaba. Duk da haka, ma'anar wannan mutuwar shine a ci gaba da wanda aka azabtar da shi daga jin tsoro ga wasu mutane na jinsin su kuma ajiye kudan zuma a matsayinsa. Hakazalika, lokacin da matashi ta rasa, mace tana ceton jinsinta. Tare da ci gaban rayuwa, ikon ƙauna ya samo asali. Idan ƙananan ƙananan yara ba su da haske tare da ƙauna ga mahaifiyar toothy, wanda yake kula da 'ya'ya (da yawa iyaye masu kulawa da dabbobi da yawa suna ƙare nan da nan bayan mace ta saka ƙwai), ɗan yaron yana ƙauna kuma ya yarda da mahaifiyarsa. Masana kimiyya sun yanke shawarar cewa tushen sadaukarwa da sadaukarwar kai suyi kula da zuriya da kwayoyinsu. Irin waɗannan takalma kamar, misali, karewar kare don ba da ransa don maigidansa, an dauke shi wani abu ne na "sakamako na karshe".
Karyata kanka?
Amma bari mu koma wani nau'i na rashin kai. Sau da yawa yakan faru cewa mutum yana son kansa a kan bagadin sauran mutane, koda kuwa ba wanda ya nemi irin wannan hadayar. Wani lokaci irin wannan hadayar zai iya zama nauyin nauyin, amma wanda ya yanke shawarar "zama don wasu" ya ci gaba da raguwa
A wannan yanayin, rashin kaifin kai ba zai zama wani abu mai mahimmanci ba, daga ra'ayi game da ilimin halitta da kuma daga matsayin halayyar dabi'u. Maimakon haka, wani wuri ne na hallaka kansa, wanda hakan zai haifar da rashin fahimta da mawuyacin hali. Abun ƙauna da girmamawa kawai (na farko - kanmu) zai iya inganta rayuwarmu.