Mutanen da suke so su koyar da wasu su rayu, sunyi imani da cewa suna da 'yancin yin haka, domin suna da kwarewar rayuwa ta kwarewa, suna iya ba da daruruwan misalai na yanayi daban-daban da kuma halin kirki a cikinsu. Amma irin wannan shawara zai iya tasiri?
Me yasa muke bukatar kwarewar rayuwa?
A gefe ɗaya, amsar wannan tambaya ta kasance a saman, aikin rayuwa yana da muhimmanci a gare mu domin muna da damar samun ilimi, basira da basira. Kada ka tuna da abin da ya faru da mu, wato, idan ba mu sami wannan kwarewa ba, muna kowane lokaci za mu koyi yadda za mu sake tafiya a sake, riƙe da cokali, da dai sauransu. Kwarewar rayuwa yana taimaka mana ba kawai don samun sabon ilimin ba, amma har ma mu tuna da ayyukan mu na kuskure don kada mu sake maimaita su. Rashin kwarewa sau da yawa shine tushen tsoron mutane, a mafi yawancin lokuta, jin tsoron rashin cin nasara. Idan mutum yana da kwarewa na yin wani aiki, albeit maras muhimmanci, da yawa ayyuka za a iya warware sauri kuma sauki fiye da mutanen da ba su da kwarewa irin wannan aiki.
Sabili da haka, kwarewa ta rayuwa wata hanya ce mai iko wadda ta ba mu dama mu daidaita da gaskiya.
Shin kwarewar rayuwa ta kasance da amfani?
Kodayake gaskiyar cewa a lokuta da yawa rayuwarka na iya zama mai amfani, ba zai zama da amfani ba koyaushe, kuma idan yana da wata tambaya game da kwarewar wani, sau da yawa sau da yawa ba za mu iya gane shi ba. Akwai misalan misalai inda mahaifiyar, ta jagoranci ta rayuwar kwarewar rayuwarta, ta koya wa ɗanta abin da zai yi da abin da ba haka ba. Menene wannan yanayin yaron ya yi? Kusan yawancin lokaci yana ci gaba da maganganun mahaifiyar, a wani lokacin ma'anar rikitarwa, amma sau da yawa saboda kwarewar wasu, har ma a lokacin balagagge, ba a fahimce su ba, muna bukatar mu gwada kanmu.
Tunda muna da balaga, za mu sami damar sauraron ra'ayoyin wasu, amma don sauraren shawarar wasu, wato, yin la'akari da ƙwarewar wani rayuwar mutum kawai idan muna so.
Tare da kwarewar rayuwar mu, ba haka ba ne mai sauƙi ba - muna bukatar shi, amma wani lokaci mun sami kanmu cikin shi. Kasancewa a irin wannan yanayi, muna ganin cewa kome zai faru, kamar yadda ya kasance na karshe, sabili da haka zamu yi daidai. Matsalar a nan shi ne cewa babu wani yanayi na musamman, kuma yana kallon duniyar ta hanyar jigon baya, mun rasa damar yin amfani da wasu hanyoyin. Saboda haka, kwarewa abu ne mai kyau, amma baku buƙatar manta da rayuwa a yanzu.